The Big Bang Theory star Melissa Rauch declared her pregnancy Tuesday in a passionate article for Glamor magazine in which she likewise talks about a previous miscarriage and her struggles with infertility.
The actress, who is expecting her first child with her husband Winston in the fall, writes, “Here is the only statement regarding my pregnancy that doesn’t make me feel like a complete fraud: ‘Melissa¬ is expecting her first child. She is extremely overjoyed, but if she’s honest, because she had a miscarriage the last time she was pregnant, she’s pretty much terrified at the moment that it will happen again.'”
Rauch, who plays Bernadette on the well-known CBS sitcom, discloses that because of her unnatural birth cycle, she battled with sharing the news of her pregnancy. “All I could think about was another woman mourning over her loss as I did, worried she would never get pregnant again, and reading about my little bundle on the way,” she said, adding, “It felt a bit disingenuous to not also share the struggle it took for me to get here.”
Eventually, Rauch says she has a craving for sharing her voyage can help other people experiencing comparative issues. “Ideally, the more we talk about this issue, the more we can chip away at the unnecessary stigma around it, with the result being that those of us struggling with loss and infertility will feel less alone,” she clarifies. Melissa Rauch (left) and Mayim Bialik on ‘The Big Bang Theory.’
Rauch goes ahead to examine her premature delivery in detail, calling it “one of the most profound sorrows” of her life, and that she felt guilty and blamed herself for it, something she partially credits to the word “miscarriage” itself.
“To me, it immediately conjures up an implication that it was the woman’s fault like she somehow ‘mishandled the carrying of this baby,'” she explains. “F that so hard, right in its patriarchal nut-sack.”
To other ladies who might be encountering pre-birth misfortune, Rauch encourages them to “find something, anything, to bring you comfort” and reminds them that “we all process grief differently.”
The performing artist likewise needs to alert individuals to be watchful with getting some information about their multiplication designs. She jokes, “On the other side, we’d never ask of a man: ‘When are ya going to shoot a virile load up in somebody and make human life?'”
Rauch closes with the last piece of exhortation: “So, to all the women out there who are dealing with fertility issues, have gone through a miscarriage or are going through the pain of it currently, allow me to leave you with this message: You are not alone. And, it is perfectly OK not to be OK right now.”