Back in 2010, Mo’Nique waged one of the strangest Oscar campaigns in recent memory. Like, she wanted to be paid for showing up to awards shows, and she refused to shake hands and do appearances at guild screenings. Also part of her strange campaign? Utter honesty when it came to her open marriage. Mo’Nique has been married to Sidney Hicks since 2006, and she’s claimed that they’ve been “best friends” for more than 25 years. In a 2010 interview, she said: “Could Sid have sex outside of his marriage with me? Yes. That’s not a deal-breaker. That’s not something that would make us say, ‘Pack your things and let’s end the marriage.’ What if it’s 20 times? So what?” Of course, she also said that she had never cheated on Sidney, meaning she has never slept with anyone other than him during their marriage. Now Mo’Nique expands on her idea of an open marriage in a new interview:
Oscar-winning actress Mo’Nique is offering up some interesting marriage advice in a new interview with True Exclusives. In the article, the twice-married actress and comedian talks about giving her husband a “pass” sleep with other people. Mo’Nique says that while couples should “live by” their marital vows, she also added “people cheat because of something they’re not getting.” The solution? A “pass to cheat.”
Because — as Mo’Nique explains it — if couples have “open and honest conversations” with their partner, it’s OK to go ahead and cheat. Especially if the person your partner wants to cheat with will do something that you won’t do.
“What is it about that person that you find that you wanna sleep with? Because they may give you something that I’m simply not willing to do,” said the actress to True Exclusives. “And if that’s the case, how can I be mad? Because I’m not gon’ do it. Should I deprive you of not having it? That’s when the relationship is real real.”
Mo’Nique has been married to her husband, actor and producer Sidney Hicks, since 2006. They have two children together.
I went through a phase where I read a lot of Dan Savage’s stuff, and his philosophy is somewhat similar, I think: that people need to be “good, giving and game” and if your partner isn’t “game” for what you want sexually, then you’re probably going to seek it out elsewhere. I’m not sure how I feel about that. I think my biggest issue is with the wording here with Mo’Nique. Like, is it still “cheating” if she’s giving her husband permission? Is it cheating if he comes home and tells her he just had a dirty banging session in some seedy motel and he only did it because he knew Mo’Nique would never allow him to get his freak on properly? I think that’s a cheap excuse. It’s an excuse men use to manipulate women. But it sounds like Mo’Nique is fine with it, so who am I to judge?
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